Sitting here trying to eat my cereal, my toddler keeps trying to climb in my lap. I highly dislike this, it bugs the crap out of me. I hate being interrupted while eating and I hate having anything get in my way. So why I would choose to eat something such as cereal while he’s running around loose is beyond me. I wasn’t even planning on eating breakfast, but before I knew it, I had poured myself a bowl. So I guess my body had other plans, eh? Anyway, the toddler climbed up into my lap and kept trying to get at the cereal, of course. It’s very awkward to feed him while in my lap and I was afraid he was going to spill it so in order to prevent a spill, I tried to move him. He’s got these weird anti-gravity magnet feet or something because they would not leave my lap and in our struggle, and my urgency to get him down, we spilled the cereal. My fault… I should have tried to stay calmer while figuring out how to get him out of my lap. Maybe picked him up or something.
But it made me remember something. It seems like the more we try to stop something from happening, the more likely it is to come to pass. How many stories have we heard where someone is out to stop the prophesy, but by doing so, allow it to come to pass? In the Bible, this king tried to trick the prophesy by sending out another man dressed in his armor while he was disguised and hiding, but a stray arrow still found him and killed him. Most movies that have anything to do with a prophesy have people who make them come true by attempting to thwart it. Harry Potter, for instant. Or Willow. Or this that and the other thing, lol. In my case, I was trying to prevent a spill, which caused the spill. It makes me think of other things that have happened in history, such as Prohibition. They wanted to get rid of the evil that alcohol caused, but inadvertently made it worse. Some would say the same about making certain drugs illegal as well, and who knows what would happen if guns were banned in the US, what with the mentality here and all. Some countries it works, some countries it makes it worse.
Does this mean that we should never try to stop something? That we’ll only make it worse? No. It’s when we don’t think rationally, clearly, and logically that things tend to blow up in our faces. With prophesies, I think that even if you went to meet your doom you’d still find it. True prophesies can’t be thwarted. But with the consequences of trying to stop something like spilling cereal and actually causing it, it’s better to try to think things through, calmly and logically. With topics like gun control, illegal drugs, and moral standards, letting emotions cloud judgment will definitely not work. Don’t ignore the emotions, but let them guide in a more controlled manner while using rational thought. If I allowed myself to let my emotions take the lead, I’m very certain that I would fight a lot more with my husband and my kids would be miserable. When the cereal spilled, I had a lot of anger and frustration fill me, and if I wasn’t in control, I would have lashed out at my toddler even though it was my fault that the cereal had spilled.
I have seen people who are governed purely by their emotions and it’s scary. One lady I know is always yelling at her kids, cheated on her husband, and hates certain movies just because they don’t completely agree with everything she believes. Anyway, I’m totally getting sidetracked again… But the point is that people can’t be friends with her unless they think like her. I can’t believe how many people I’ve met who hate differing opinions. I’ve been banned from websites/blogs/facebook groups because I commented something that didn’t agree 100% with the poster. Once I noticed this one lady who is charging people to read her blog asked for contributions and some people were asking if they would get paid. It seemed reasonable that someone who thinks their time and effort was worth something to pay those who would contribute, right? Well when I went back to look at the answer, those comments were gone. So I asked about them. I think I was deleted and banned within seconds… I was polite, reasonable, and everything, but for reasons I still cannot fathom, I was banned. No reply or anything, just poof, gone. Another person thinking with emotion rather than logic and rationale. Why couldn’t she have just said, “No, sorry, I don’t have that kind of money to pay people for their work?” Or “I’m looking for people to do this for free?”
I keep having to stop myself from going on massive rants down rabbit trails, lol. *just breathe and focus*. I guess I’m just trying to say that a lot of problems can be avoided if we stop just reacting and actually thinking first. Obviously there are situations where reaction without thinking is needed (baby in front of bus?) and there are situations that just plain can’t be helped… But thinking calmly and rationally is a very good thing and I wish both my husband and I could remember to do it more often instead of just reacting.
On that note, my toddler is trying to stand in his highchair while flapping his arms and yelling his word for mommy (?? sounds like “Monet”) quite happily. He doesn’t actually want me though.