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Those closest hurt you the most

Recently, I followed my brother onto this facebook page where this guy posted a comic depicting a man and a woman, and she give him her number, and as they walk away, the man is thinking, “I hope she didn’t give me a wrong number.” While the woman is thinking, “I hope he doesn’t rape and murder me.” Below that was written, “Today on “We’re Past All That” a critical examination of how men are really hurt when women don’t trust them and how it’s important that we really consider those feelings.”

My brother started commenting against the comments claiming that men are rapists and are not to be trusted, and then I joined in, because this is a completely unfair assessment that only damages any kind of equality we’re trying for. My brother stated that the comic was an unfair example, and that a better thing for the man to be thinking would be “I hope she doesn’t falsely accuse me of rape.” My brother has spent the past 6 years having to deal with the repercussions of that.

We were called rape apologists for saying that most men don’t rape, and that saying it’s fine to mistrust men is the same as saying it’s fine to mistrust black people. Neither one is ok. They claimed we were trying to dismiss women’s experiences by saying that not all men rape… even though it’s more like 5% of the population that does. 5% is not most, it is a mere fraction. Why should millions of men be accused in the minds of women of something they will never do?

It builds up a barrier, something we’ve been trying to tear down. It sets us back, and the people who claim that no man is to be trusted are just trying to raise up a new power in place of the old. No one group should ever be in charge, nothing will ever get better that way.

And of course my brother and I got banned, and then my mom sent me a screenshot showing me that my cousin apologized for our behavior… Great. How sweet. Apologizing for our behavior, knowing exactly what we’ve been through? Our position is as valid as theirs, but we were apparently invading a “safe space,” which happens to be a public page. PUBLIC. Safe places are private. Technically, there are no safe places… just look at what happened to me last year…

This is why I trust no one. I just didn’t expect it from family, especially the cousin I’m closest with.

Equality (again)

Perhaps it’s something with people on the spectrum, I’m not sure, I just know it’s a common desire, but I want equal treatment for everyone. I know I’ve talked about this before, but it just keeps coming up and bugging me.

I saw someone saying he thought it was fine for people to insult him because he’s white, straight, and male. But no. No. It is never all right to insult anyone, especially for being what they were born! It just feeds the problem, it continues to create a barrier, a divide amongst humans. I know it’s unrealistic of me to ever think humans can achieve equality, but I can dream. And I can argue about it.

Because seriously, why would anyone ever feel like they deserve to be insulted for being born? Hi, I’m a white female, but I will never feel any guilt for existing. I will feel guilt at not doing the right thing when I should. Actions speak louder than words. Why do we sit here behind our keyboards pretending we give a fuck about anyone else, when we could be doing so much more for people? I try, it’s hard, but I try. More than one occasion this week I’ve stayed up past midnight talking to people who were depressed or needed to just talk or needed some sort of guidance. I’m not perfect person, I’m just as fallible as the next, but I’m not going to let that stop me from trying to make someone else’s life better, even if it’s just for a moment.

I can’t judge people for existing. I won’t. And I hate that people think I’m a horrible person for not feeling guilty over my heritage.  I hate that I’ve been insulted and told I was overreacting when I said their words hurt.

I will not stoop to that level. Gandhi never did, Jesus never did, Martin Luther King Jr never did, so many other people didn’t and we consider them great role models. If they’re such great role models, why do people insist on crushing their ideals into the ground on some holy march for justice?

They don’t want equality. They just want justice and they don’t care who they hurt in the process.